Rabu, 31 Maret 2010

Stepcase Lifehack - The Law of Attraction is a Dangerous Delusion

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The Law of Attraction is a Dangerous Delusion
March 31, 2010 at 7:32 PM


One of the biggest bandwagons that has rolled through the self-help community in recent years is the so-called Law of Attraction (LoA). This claims that you attract into your life whatever you think about.  Before I explain why I believe that this is not a law, not true, and not helpful, let me differentiate the LoA from some associated but different self-help concepts that actually do work.

1.  Positive Thinking. There is considerable evidence that having a positive, optimistic, can-do frame of mind will lead to much better outcomes in many circumstances than! having a negative, pessimistic or cynical approach.  Studies show that positive thinkers generally do better, live longer, and are healthier and happier than negative thinkers.

2.  Focus, Goal Setting and Planning. There are many benefits in having a clear focus on what you want to achieve, in setting goals, in measuring progress against those goals and in taking corrective actions when you fall short.  Many successful people base their day on having an action plan that they work through.

3.  Visualization. Visualising a successful action can assist you to achieve it.  If you are nervous about making a speech then visualizing yourself giving a confident, dynamic performance will help you to do just that.  Visualising a great golf swing or a good tennis backhand stroke can help supplement your training and practice.

4.  Self-Belief. Mo! st successful people have enormous self-belief.  They kn! ow that they have something special to offer and that they can achieve great things.  They use this self-belief as the basis on which to build the plans, improvements, learnings and actions that lead to success.

5.  An Attitude of Gratitude. Most of us have a great deal to be thankful for.  Counting our blessings and giving thanks help us to get our difficulties into perspective and engender a positive frame of mind.

So having listed those self-help mantras that actually work let us turn to the big idea that does not.  The Law of Attraction as expounded by Bob Proctor, by Rhonda Byrne in her best-selling book, The Secret, and by her many followers claims that all you need to do is to think about the things that you want in your life and the 'Universe' will supply them in abundance – whether they are positive or negative.   So if you think about money you will get money; if you focus on your debts you will st! ay in debt.   If you think about being slim you will become slim whereas if you constantly worry about how fat you are you will stay fat.   Unfortunately for the proponents of this ‘law’ there is no scientific evidence to support it.  There are plenty of anecdotes from people who believe the law worked for them but for each of these stories there are many other possible explanations.   No one has carried out a controlled experiment showing that the so-called law actually works.

Furthermore the law runs up against some very practical difficulties.  What if several people all want the same promotion and think about it furiously?  How can they all get the same post?  The law implies that whatever difficulties you have in life are the result of you thinking the wrong thoughts.  So it appears that an abused child, a rape victim or a prisoner in a concentration camp was somehow to blame because they thought negative thoughts.  This is offensive to vi! ctims and flies in the face of common sense.

According t! o the Lo A if I want to win the gold medal in the 100 metres in the next Olympic Games or become President of the USA or get Jennifer Lopez as my girlfriend then all I have to do is think about my goal and it will come to me.  If we want a cure for cancer then we should stop spending money on research and just think about it instead.

The appeal of the LoA lies in its lazy proposition.  You do not need hard work and discipline to lose weight or get rich – you can do it by thinking.  Unfortunately this just is not true.   The LoA is delusional.  It is dangerous because it misleads people into believing that imagery alone will work without action.   To succeed in life you need things like talent, diligence, persistence, skills, hard-work and maybe a little luck.  You can achieve great things – but in order to do so you have to do a lot more than just think about them.

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Paul Sloane is an author and speaker on leadership, innovation and lateral thinking. His most recent book is The Innovative Leader. He helps organizations improve innovation, creativity and leadership. He is the founder of Destination Innovation. He has written 15 books of lateral thinking puzzles and hosts the lateral puzzles forum.Follow him on Twitter at twitter.com/PaulSloane.

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7 Effective Ways To De-Junk Your Life
March 30, 2010 at 7:42 PM


If you purge your life of random belongings, bad habits, and unsatisfying relationships you’ll be left with something scary: time and space. What you do with all the extra time and space in your life after putting these tips into action is something we can discuss in the comments.

Better yet, I’ll grab a bunch of readers and we’ll swing by your house to help you clean out this evening. Fun idea, right? Too soon? Okay. Pick one of the following and see where it takes you. It’s time to de-junk your life!

1. Say something honest every day

Lies ! are rubbish. You don’t need them in your life. You might find some justification to lie to others but that justification only comes after a lie to yourself about the importance of truth. What to do? Take something you were planning on talking about already and be honest in your conversation. Being honest is a lot like lying in that it gets easier with practice.

2. Make a list of 7 things you can’t replace

You can start the next meme on Facebook with this if you like. No matter what it takes to get you started, the important thing is that you take the time to figure out what stuff really matters to you. Writing down the things you’d escape a house fire with will help you look at the things you’ve surrounded yourself with in a different way. Do you really need that inflatable killer whale? Do you actually play that piano? What you do once you’ve prioritized your stuff is up to you. My experience says that you’ll probably get r! id of some junk as a result.

3. Make a list of 5 people! you can ’t live without

This isn’t a list you should publicize unless you want to deal with hurt feelings from your greater social group. Keep it private but make your resulting actions tangible and as public as needed for them to count. If you like, continue your list with a relationship maintenance schedule. Stop kidding yourself about the value of spontaneity and make sure you’re actually keeping in touch with the people who matter to you. You already use Facebook to keep track of birthdays. No excuses.

4. Move into a smaller home

This is simple. If your couch won’t fit in the new place, you can’t take it with you. Smaller spaces have a way of reminding us that open areas actually are important and should be preserved. The moving process itself should help get rid of some of your junk. If it doesn’t, you’ll be faced with all your extra things on a daily basis until you take care of them.

5. Become a vegan for! 3 months

Jump off the fast food train for a few months and try the world of vegan cuisine. I don’t suggest this because I think the world should be vegan but because I’ve seen what a dramatic change in diet can do to your perspective on life. When you avoid animal products you turn your back on a lot of the processed junk we accept as food. Give yourself a chance to discover new foods, different recipes, and find new ways to respond to feeling hungry. After 3 months? You might return to eating animal products but you’ll never be able to go back all the way. I’m glad I didn’t.

6. Quit your job

You don’t have to actually quit your job for this to work. Just pretend you’ve quit and map out your next few steps. Will you change careers, go back to school, move to a difference city, or something else? For most of us, our job is the biggest deciding factor in what we do with our lives. It’s how we make our money! and what we spend most of our time doing. So what would you d! o if you no longer had your job? Start planning. You might be surprisingly thrilled at what you discover.

7. Train for an endurance race

I’m a chubby dude so the reality of running a 50-mile race is still quite far in the future. That doesn’t mean I don’t get a huge amount of value from the process though. With every mile I’m reminded of all the junk I once ate and am inspired to get leaner and faster. For now, it’s not about speed. It’s about picking a distance and completing it without stopping. Those successes carry over into every other part of my life as I face new challenges and make daily choices about what I’ll allow to take up my time. If you have a friend who trains regularly, ask them to tell you about the stress relief that endurance training provides. It continues to amaze me how much mental junk disappears during a workout. Try it!

What do you do to de-junk your life? Do you have a tried and true pro! cess that allows you to keep your house clear of clutter and your mind free to create? The process of de-junking can be arduous and downright scary at times. I’m still in the thick of it as I write this but I’ve got a long string of successes to look back on and remind myself that I can get through today’s challenges just as I have those in the past. Can you say the same for yourself? If not, grab one of the tips I shared or one from a commenter and see if you can create a success story for yourself. We’ll be here to celebrate your win!

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Selasa, 30 Maret 2010

Stepcase Lifehack - 7 Effective Ways To De-Junk Your Life

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7 Effective Ways To De-Junk Your Life
March 30, 2010 at 7:42 PM

If you purge your life of random belongings, bad habits, and unsatisfying relationships you’ll be left with something scary: time and space. What you do with all the extra time and space in your life after putting these tips into action is something we can discuss in the comments.

Better yet, I’ll grab a bunch of readers and we’ll swing by your house to help you clean out this evening. Fun idea, right? Too soon? Okay. Pick one of the following and see where it takes you. It’s time to de-junk your life!

1. Say something honest every day

Lies are rubbish. You don’t need them in your life. You might find some justification to lie to others but that justification only comes after a lie to yourself! about the importance of truth. What to do? Take something you were planning on talking about already and be honest in your conversation. Being honest is a lot like lying in that it gets easier with practice.

2. Make a list of 7 things you can’t replace

You can start the next meme on Facebook with this if you like. No matter what it takes to get you started, the important thing is that you take the time to figure out what stuff really matters to you. Writing down the things you’d escape a house fire with will help you look at the things you’ve surrounded yourself with in a different way. Do you really need that inflatable killer whale? Do you actually play that piano? What you do once you’ve prioritized your stuff is up to you. My experience says that you’ll probably get rid of some junk as a result.

3. Make a list of 5 people you can’t live without

This isn’t a list you should publicize unless you want t! o deal with hurt feelings from your greater social group. Keep! it priv ate but make your resulting actions tangible and as public as needed for them to count. If you like, continue your list with a relationship maintenance schedule. Stop kidding yourself about the value of spontaneity and make sure you’re actually keeping in touch with the people who matter to you. You already use Facebook to keep track of birthdays. No excuses.

4. Move into a smaller home

This is simple. If your couch won’t fit in the new place, you can’t take it with you. Smaller spaces have a way of reminding us that open areas actually are important and should be preserved. The moving process itself should help get rid of some of your junk. If it doesn’t, you’ll be faced with all your extra things on a daily basis until you take care of them.

5. Become a vegan for 3 months

Jump off the fast food train for a few months and try the world of vegan cuisine. I don’t suggest this because I think the world should be! vegan but because I’ve seen what a dramatic change in diet can do to your perspective on life. When you avoid animal products you turn your back on a lot of the processed junk we accept as food. Give yourself a chance to discover new foods, different recipes, and find new ways to respond to feeling hungry. After 3 months? You might return to eating animal products but you’ll never be able to go back all the way. I’m glad I didn’t.

6. Quit your job

You don’t have to actually quit your job for this to work. Just pretend you’ve quit and map out your next few steps. Will you change careers, go back to school, move to a difference city, or something else? For most of us, our job is the biggest deciding factor in what we do with our lives. It’s how we make our money and what we spend most of our time doing. So what would you do if you no longer had your job? Start planning. You might be surprisingly thrilled at what you dis! cover.

7. Train for an endurance race

I’m ! a chubby dude so the reality of running a 50-mile race is still quite far in the future. That doesn’t mean I don’t get a huge amount of value from the process though. With every mile I’m reminded of all the junk I once ate and am inspired to get leaner and faster. For now, it’s not about speed. It’s about picking a distance and completing it without stopping. Those successes carry over into every other part of my life as I face new challenges and make daily choices about what I’ll allow to take up my time. If you have a friend who trains regularly, ask them to tell you about the stress relief that endurance training provides. It continues to amaze me how much mental junk disappears during a workout. Try it!

What do you do to de-junk your life? Do you have a tried and true process that allows you to keep your house clear of clutter and your mind free to create? The process of de-junking can be arduous and downright scary at t! imes. I’m still in the thick of it as I write this but I’ve got a long string of successes to look back on and remind myself that I can get through today’s challenges just as I have those in the past. Can you say the same for yourself? If not, grab one of the tips I shared or one from a commenter and see if you can create a success story for yourself. We’ll be here to celebrate your win!

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Sabtu, 27 Maret 2010

Hidup 100 Tahun Berkat Rokok dan Alkohol?!!



Seorang wanita asal Gloucestershire, Inggris yang berusia 100 tahun yakin bahwa ia berumur panjang karena rokok dan alkohol yang dikonsumsinya.

Lorna GobeyLorna Gobey, yang berdomisili di Cheltenham, sanggup menghisap 20 batang rokok setiap hari dan secara rutin meneguk segelas Guinness dengan wiski.

Pertama kalinya ia merokok pada tahun 1940 dan setelah dihitung-hitung, total rokok yang dihisap sudah lebih dari 1.5 juta sejak itu, demikian lansir Daily Telegraph (sumber).

Mrs Gobey mengatakan, "Saya sudah merokok sejak berusia 30 tahun dan tak pernah ada masalah sama sekali."

"Banyak orang yang mencoba menasehati dan mengatakan bahwa kebiasaan itu buruk, namun keluarga saya tak akan berani meminta saya untuk berhenti karena jika mereka lakukan, saya akan menarik mereka ke pangkuan dan saya tampar mereka."

"Saya selalu berusaha menikmati hidup. Saya pikir penting untuk melakukan hal-hal yang ingin anda lakukan dan tidak membiarkan orang lain mengatur-ngatur hidup anda."

"Saya suka merokok, setetes wiski dan Guinness, dan saya masih suka bermain skittles. Mungkin itu bagian dari alasan megnapa saya masih hidup begitu lama. Saya takpernah berpikir akan mencapai usia 100 tahun, namun ternyata saya masih berumur panjang. Sungguh saya kagum."

Mrs Gobey, yang memiliki 27 cucu, 55 buyut dan 12 cicit, merayakan ulang tahunnya di Labour Club lokal dengan minuman kesukaannya.

Putranya, Bob Fisher, 66, mengatakan, "Di usia senja ibu masih terlihat sehat dan bugar. Ia merokok lebih cepat daripada kami semua dan ia masih suka menegak minuman keras. Selain itu ia juga sangat suka bermain bingo dan bersiul serta jalan-jalan keliling kota ini dengan mengemudikan mobil."

saran :
merokok dapat menyebabkan serangan jantung impotensi , gangguan kehamilan dan janin

KRETIF NYA ORANG JEPANG

Korek api matahari.
Korek ini hanya bisa digunakan siang hari di saat matahari bersinar.
korek api matahari:

Alat berkebun 10 in 1.
Sepuluh alat jadi satu memang praktis banget, tapi tidak untuk alat satu ini. Gede dan malah ngerepotin!
10 in 1:

Dasi serbaguna. Mirip film Mr. Bean, bedanya dia menyimpan apa saja di jas. Bayangkan kalau kamu menyimpan banyak barang di dasi. Berat dan bisa membuat badan bungkuk.
dasi canggih:

Kamera panorama 360 derajat.
Susah banget mengoperasikan kamera ini. Mending pakai digicam sekarang kali ya?
kamera 360:

Sendal pembunuh kecoa
Sandal ditambah alat pemukul kecoa. Aduh! ganggu banget deh gagangnya.
sendal pembunuh kecoa:

Tadah hujan pribadi.
Hemat air sampai-sampai air hujan pun disimpan. Payung menghindari kita dari basah bisa dapat bonus air. Asik...
payung kebalik:

Pelindung rambut.
Makan mie tidak mau diganggu oleh rambut yang meutupi wajah atau takut rambut kamu rusak akibat uap mie panas? Cukup pakai masker ini.
pelindung rambut:

Pelindung panas.
Fungsi payung juga bisa sebagai pelindung panas dan topi sehingga tidak perlu dipegang dengan tangan, langsung diikat di kepala.
payung di kepala:


Penyedia oksigen murni.
Langsung dari tumbuhan, ehem kaya vacum cleaner ya?
sedot tumbuhan:

Bora-Bora Pantai terindah

mungkin selama ini anda menganggap bahwa pantai terindah d dunia itu adalah pantai d hawaii,bali, namun masih ada pantai yg jauh lebih mantap,indah,damai dibanding hawaii, yaitu pantai Bora-Bora, sebuah pulau d France Polynesia yg terletak d samudera pasifik

Bora-Bora Island:































airnye jernih banget gan kaya kolam renang
kalo menurut saya sih ini pantai yg terbaik d dunia..
sekaligus jd referensi liburan buat anda sekalian selain pantai2 d bali
Bora Bora juga di nominasiin buat new7wonders (7 keajaiban dunia terbaru).